For some brides, a shower can be a stressful event rather than a joyous one.

However, keeping your bridal shower more intimate is perfectly acceptable and can help save money.

Consider inviting people you actually know and are closer to rather than every female on your guest list.

A bride with friends

Having a smaller bridal shower canalleviate financial strainand other anxiety.

There’s nothing that says you’re free to’t do the same!

This also goes for your bridal shower theme and what you want to do to celebrate your shower.

A bride-to-be opening a gift.

If you don’t want to do brunch, don’t.

If you want to have a magician perform, go for it.

Ditch the white dress

We get it.

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If you don’t want to, don’t.

Some things are best kept private, and this is one of them.

Don’t be shy about asking for money

Let’s face it.

Women drinking champagne.at party

You and your groom are probably already living together and your home is probably already furnished.

Sites likeHoneyfundmake it easy to set up fundraisers or cash-based wedding registries in lieu of tangible gifts.

In fact, you could forego the meal altogether and just have a dessert party.

Newly engaged couple taking selfie

Want something a little more upscale?

Have a bridal shower dinner.

The one exception is if the bride is your sibling or you’re in her wedding party.

women around a fire

You’re better off getting her something that she will definitely like.

And, either way, don’t forget the gift receipt.

Everyone changes their mind from time to time.

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It’s important to keep that in mind.

bride-to-be in white dress at party

Lingerie on pink background

a bag of money

brunch foods on a table

goody bags at bridal shower

Bridal items on wood background

an outdoor wedding celebration

blue plate set

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