Relationships are always based on probability.
It could work out, or it could end, sometimes peacefully and sometimes more of a crash-and-burn situation.
This is because how you approach your healing process can make or break you in future relationships.
A lot of people break up and then opt for a rebound partner for different reasons.
Sometimes it’s to save face from family and friends.
Other times it’s borne out of a moment’s weakness or ego.
Rebounding can also be an option for people who lack emotional maturity.
Did you give your heart a break?
The throes of heartbreak can be immensely difficult to bear.
True healing requires reflection and this is often accompanied by solitude.
That doesn’t mean you’re free to’t go to your friends or family for emotional support.
It just means that initiating new romantic relationships during this time isn’t the ideal thing to do.
Think of it this way: it’s possible for you to’t eat on a broken dish.
You have to build it back up before it can take the weight of more food.
In the same way, you’re free to’t hold up a new relationship on a broken heart.
It needs time to mend.
This is a normal reaction from your brain when it’s experienced a traumatic situation.
Yes, breakups can be traumatic, especially when you’re still emotionally attached to your ex.
However, you have to make a conscious decision to feel all your feelings, especially the negative ones.
Accept that your relationship happened and that it is now over.
Allow yourself to grieve what you had or could’ve had and move on from it.
When you suppress your raging emotions, they fester and burst out at a later date.
It’s like trying to contain a bottle of carbonated soda after it’s been shaken up.
You’ll have to open it eventually and when you do, it will erupt.
Feeling your feelings might mean different things to different people.
Your emotional life should not consist solely of romantic partners.
You need platonic love from your support system as well.
You have to love yourself don’t depend on a relationship to fulfill or complete you.
Give yourself the time and space to grow from this experience and re-center yourself.
Don’t concentrate onhow long it’s taking you to get over your breakup.
Healing is never a linear path.
You could be doing well one week and the next week you’re flooded with emotion.
It’s painstaking and yet relieving.
Go at your own pace.
Only you know how much time is needed to move on after a breakup.
