According toThe Attachment Project, people first develop attachments in childhood.
These four styles often carry over into adulthood, where they play out in intimate relationships with romantic partners.
Here’s how to make the transition.
They also welcome collaboration and open communication, and they tend to look for support from loved ones.
When those fears do arise, pause and notice what triggered them.
Wait before taking action until you’ve had a chance to self-soothe.
For anxious types, that person could be someone with an avoidant attachment style.
The best model for how to become more secure is a partner who’s already securely attached.
However, remember to learn from your secure counterpart, rather than simply falling into familiar habits.
When dating a securely attached person, be sure to also give yourself some grace.
Your relationship history and even childhood may be much different from theirs.
It’s okay if it takes time to unlearn your old ways and adopt a new attachment style.
