Pessimism has a bad reputation.
Optimism, on the other hand, is celebrated.
It’s touted as being the gateway to accomplishing anything in life.
But how many times have you found yourself being disappointed by expectations in your dating life?
You get on dating apps, full of hope and vigor, with the intention of finding someone perfect.
How hard can it be really?
There are more than 7 billion people in the world.
Surely, there has to be someone who’s exactly right for you out there.
They’d be the Frodo to your Gamgee.
The Phoebe to your Mike.
The Shrek to your Fiona.
But, according to some experts, you might bemaking a big dating mistakewithout even knowing it.
Having a healthy dose of pessimism while dating can actually be good for you.
But more often than not, this is never the case.
Battle noted that expecting perfection in partners is setting yourself up for a bad precedent.
Burying our unrealistic expectations six feet under can be one of the best things we can do for ourselves.
Seeing the glass as half empty, in this case, might not be a bad thing.
Are all of your dates falling short of what you expect?
What are your expectations?
Where do they come from?
Asking yourself such questions can give some clarity.
Next, approach dating with an open mind, and a healthy dose of pessimism.
Relationships take work and compatibility is not something you’ll gain on the very first date.
Battle told MindBodyGreen that dating pessimism isn’t about being all doom and gloom all the time.
“Expecting that things won’t always be great means that you might better recognize when they are.
