Lately, there’s been a lot of discussion about red flags and problematic behavior in relationships.
We’ve gradually begun to stand up against obvious red flags like extreme levels of jealousy and possessiveness.
We’re also starting to recognize subtler ones like extravagant gifting andsaying “I love you” too soon.
The premise of this method?
Simply be a grey rock.
What is the grey rock method?
Being a grey rock is simpler than you’d think.
Essentially, you become a rock that doesn’t engage with the narcissist to feed into their ego.
As with any method to deflect negativity, it’s important to practice caution to protect yourself.
He recommended closely observing their reaction before continuing.
There’s a right way to practice it
Make conversations as boring and disengaging as possible.
For texting, you’re free to also answer in emojis or short, one-word replies.
take a stab at avoid elaborating on your answers and be as vague as possible.
Ignore the instinct to ask them questions about themselves after they’ve asked you one.
you could also use body language techniques to make yourself seem detached.
Avoid eye contact to make them realize you’re not interested in the conversation.
Make yourself seem busy by looking at your phone or doing some paperwork.
Maintain a neutral expression and tone to give the impression that their words don’t affect you.
For the grey rock method to work, the narcissist cannot catch wind of what you’re doing.
Don’t drop hints that give it away.
