Relationships are hard work, there’s no doubt about that.
To be in a long-term healthy partnership means you have to put time and effort into it.
They each also bring their own weird quirks, annoying habits, and frustrating behaviors to the relationship.
Still,every relationship could benefit from couples therapy.
Counseling is a wonderful tool to help you understand one another.
It also helps you work against your own dysfunctional patterns and become vulnerable, which leads to greater intimacy.
Oddly enough, another surprising tool that improves a relationship is setting aside time for yourself.
Even in the most harmonious of relationships, it’s a necessary component.
When you are with someone, it’s normal to put the focus and attention on them.
Yet sometimes, you just want to do what you want to do without having to consider anyone else.
It’s not anything personal against your partner.
It’s just simply a means to retain your own individuality (viaEugene Therapy).
Being alone can also foster independence.
“It expands your recently narrowed comfort zone by reminding you that you’re capable and independent.”
That still holds true when you are in a relationship, too.
Spending time with yourself can be incredibly invigorating.
Even in healthy relationships, everyone needs their own space and downtime.
You should remain autonomous even when coupled because you are a full person all on your own.
If you find yourself always asking your partner before you do anything, that could be a problem.
This can translate into checking in with your partner all day long.
“Chances are you’re texting, calling, and emailing a dozen times a day.
Wait until you see each other in person at the end of the day,” Masini explains.
“Sometimes the 8-hour workday apart is enough.
Other times you need more.”
It’s a sign of trust and love, for yourself and your partner.
Yet having some space means something different to each person.
Yet others may want to go hiking or play tennis or see a movie with friends.
It’s important to identify what will make you feel restored and recharged.
