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Ironically, even the originator of Mother’s Day came to hate the holiday.

(Remember, this applies to Father’s Day, Thanksgiving, and other holidays.)

Pensive woman lean against window

Turn off your phone and tablet if you have to; you’ll save yourself a lot of stress.

Besides,when you give up social media, your bodyresponds by becoming more focused and relaxed.

I could use your good thoughts."

woman put phone in purse

), you may have noticed that some are asking if you want to receive Mother’s Day messages.

Take advantage of the opportunity to avoid being flooded with “shop for Mom now!”

On the other hand, you may not be a fan of the opt-out.

Jeni’s ice cream opt out

In that case, your best bet is to extend your social media blackout to include checking your email.

Another idea: creating a tangible memorial, as Jill Duggar Dillard did.

Although she went on to have another healthy baby soon after,Jill remembers the heartbreaking anniversary every year.

Jill Duggar Dillard memory box

She also created a memory box, seen here.

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking you “should” feel a certain way, either.

Grief and stress are highly individual matters.

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Plan ahead for what might help you cope with Mother’s Day, and emphasize self-care.

Some people find it cathartic to write or express their feelings through art.

or “Do you have time to meet up for breakfast?”

Mother’s Day table setting chopsticks

It all depends on what you could manage.

Attending a Mother’s Day event could also help you find surprising moments of joy.

This is not only normal; it’s also a part of life.

Woman sofa comfort sad friend

If that’s the case, consider letting her know you’re there for her.

It could be as simple as reaching out and saying, “How are you doing?

What can I do to help?”

They offer suggestions for supporting somebody who needs extra love on this day.

Then take your cue from that and think of something thoughtful to do.

Take your friend for a stroll in the park.

Treat them to a movie or coffee (pick a place that isn’t likely crowded with families).

Write a comforting note, donate to a charity in their name, or send a meal.

They’ll be grateful to know someone understands and acknowledges their feelings.