Sometimes, that human need for control manifests itself as regret.
Having some second thoughts after something has happened or you’ve done something is completely normal.
It simply shows you’re an emotionally functioning human being, and that’s okay.
Clinical psychologist Ali Mattu, Ph.D., explained toOprah Daily, “Regret is about disappointment.
We want to make a different choice than we did, but we can’t time travel.”
Mattu added, “It’s the mind’s way of instilling self-punishment.”
It can be hard to cope with the fact that the alternative ending didn’t happen and never will.
for seemingly gain control over the situation, the mind might make you the culprit.
But it’s not always that simple or true.
Healing the regret
Sometimes things just happen.
If they’re more trivial, like saying something you shouldn’t have, the damage can be remedied.
Acknowledge your mistakes and own up to them.
More serious situations will most likely require more patience and work.
Take your time to be mindful towards yourself.
Ask for help if you need it.
Talking to a friend or a professional will likely help you gain some perspective.
There are manytools to help with your mental health.
Treat yourself like you would a friend.
Don’t make a cult of suffering.
