Science has long been fascinated with the topic of if we’re inherently selfish or altruistic as human beings.
Science seems to have agreed that we’re a bit of both.
Selfishness runs in our veins just as much as other character traits like jealousy, anger, or ambition.
Why is it, then, that when we enter romantic relationships and start dating that we forget this?
The movie-induced romantic tales we’re told over and over again seem to take over love is unconditional.
There’s no room for selfishness when you love someone.
You have to love the one you choose completely and without reservation.
How true and how healthy is this notion?
Is there such a thing as unconditional love?
Can you love someone completely selflessly?
Your partner is selfish and so are you
Think about how you and your partner first met.
Did you have a list (imaginary or real) of the qualities you wanted in someone?
Did you want for them to look a certain way?
What about after you started dating?
Did you want them to impress your friends and family?
Accompany you to social gatherings that you had to make an appearance at?
Take interest in some of your hobbies?
You both wanted someone who suited your wants and needs.
It’s also about forming a better and more authentic connection with yourself and your partner.
Of course, tolerating perpetually self-centered behavior from your significant other is cause for serious concern.
A relationship is built on give and take.
One person’s feelings and needs should not be prioritized over the other’s all the time.
But a healthy dose of self-interest isn’t bad.
Love is imperfect because people are imperfect.
Understanding this is key.
It could’ve happened to you too.
This doesn’t mean that they love you any less.
Start by freeing yourself from these outdated notions of exemplary partner behavior."
Additionally, there are certain instances when your partner oryou should be selfish.
