Dating hasdrasticallychanged in the past decade.
A large part of that is due to the digitization of dating.
Before dating apps, there was almost an innocence to dating.
People couldn’t wait for the next time they’d see their date.
But now the process of getting to know someone has become almost an afterthought.
Dating apps aren’t all bad.
While ghosting has been around for a while, OnlyPlans is a pesky new mutation of the problem.
What is OnlyPlans and why are people doing it?
Ok, so what’s OnlyPlans?
This is a dating trend where people make plans to go on a date without following through with them.
This isn’t the same as getting stood up, though.
In OnlyPlans, the plan becomes canceled well before either of you makes your way to the place.
An OnlyPlanner will usually say something unavoidable and important came up on the date and time for your hang.
You might be disappointed, but if you like them, you’ll likely reschedule.
But then another emergency will spring up out of nowhere!
Eventually, you’ll get the hint.
No, not every canceled date counts as OnlyPlanning.
This method of letting someone go is a consistent pattern where plans are made and broken.
Why do people do this?
To start with the hardest, maybe they’re just not that into you.
But hey, that saves you from investing more time into someone who doesn’t value you!
Sometimes, it might not be you at all.
Other times, your match might not be looking for a committed relationship but for some fun conversations.
Mental health and self-esteem issues might also play a part in OnlyPlanning.
During the initial phases, manage your expectations.
Even if youreallylike someone, wait a bit to see how things pan out before considering a relationship.
For people with busy lives,set better work-life boundariesto carve time for a relationship.
