As humans, we all grow up with a unique set of individual fears.
Facing your fears is always a challenge, but it’s through this hard work that you grow.
For many, the thought of confronting someone with a need or a problem is too much to bear.
The first thing to do is reassess how you deal with conflict (viaPsychology Today).
That is the first step.
When getting ready to do anything that may frighten you, preparation is key.
You should go over the words you will say and how you will say them.
Try writing down the thoughts you want to convey and the words you wish to use.
Another good tactic is to rehearse your words with a friend or your therapist.
They can guide you and help you be more assertive where necessary.
Use ‘I’ statements
There is a certain finesse that comes with learning to be assertive.
It helps to stick to the main punts, be clear and then move on.
That is something you must mentally prepare for since you could only control your own responses and actions.
Perhaps you’ve been avoiding confronting someone because you know they’re already an angry and unsteady person.
It can be as simple as using everyday situations to hone your skills.
If it’s a romantic situation, make a run at practice sharing your feelings as they pop up.
