All relationships experience hardships and low points.

While disagreements are natural, it’s importantnot to ignore the signs that your relationship might be in trouble.

TherapistMargaret Rutherford, Ph.D.calls this “prevention over intervention.”

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In an article published byThe Gottman Institute,Dr.

But not all forms of communication work for every couple.

There are common relationshipproblems that many couples face but do not talk about.

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From money issues to trusting each other, being in a relationship is extremely vulnerable.

There are plenty of reasons why couples subconsciously decide not to talk about a problem.

Big changes can trigger unhealthy responses that have long been sedentary.

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These issues happen under the surface and often cause problems for couples without their knowledge.

Identifying the root of these behaviors and reactions is what a couples therapist does best.

But not everyone is open to couples therapy, even if their partner is asking for them to attend.

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For most couples, there is a world whereyour partner refuses to attend couples counseling with you.

If this occurs, experts encourage the partner who wants to seek help to attend by themselves.

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Woman speaks to therapist