No one gets married anticipating that they’ll one day divorce.
And no one buys a home with their partner if they suspect one day they’ll be moving out.
Yet40 to 50 percentof married couples in America wind up getting divorced, which is a pretty significant number.
Here’s how you could tell if you and your partner are likely to make it.
However, now that those pheromones have subsided, are you still doing those little things?
If so, that’s a good thing.
You have date nights
Life can be pretty hectic for most couples.
That can keep you dialed into each other and well-connected.
These are great signs your relationship is going in the right direction."
The key is to observe that time you spend alone together as special.
Even non-sexual touching builds connection between partners."
So if you’re physically connecting, you’ll be emotionally connected as well.
But every couple will have to deal with changes once you move out of the honeymoon phase.
If you’re both receiving the benefits of compromise over time, you’re on the right track.
And there’s another possible benefit, too.
Bennett went on, “Not only that, but overcoming adversity as couple bonds you to each other.
Consequently, your relationship has a better chance of lasting.”
Adversity, then, is not all bad if you’ve gotten through it together.
It is a sign of respect and acknowledgement of one’s own responsibilities in disagreements.
That means that your partner is going to change, too, and it’s important to let them.
Do they ask the same of you, sincerely?
She told me, “Curiosity about your spouse signals the desire to be learning more about each other.
Curious couples view their partners with a sense of wonder and excitement.”
And that curiosity can come in handy during an argument, too.
So what does that look like?
Has your partner ever pointed out that you’re doing something unhealthy?
Well intended people with whom we are connected are not intending to ‘put us down’ with a criticism.
They may simply be requesting a change in behavior."
And if you do take issue to constructive, compassionate criticism?
They also show that they value what the other thinks by accepting their influence when making decisions."
Nina Rifkind, a psychotherapist, told me how much that matters.
It makes a lot of sense when you think about the bigger picture," she said.
Additionally, being polite prevents fights.
