Well, chances are that you have come across a “right person, wrong time.”
PsychologistCynthia King, founder ofFemFwd, believes that certain people are meant for certain phases of our life.
Sometimes, this purpose could be to reassure you that people with the qualities you desire do exist.
“This inspires some hope and trust in the dating process.”
Who is a ‘right person, wrong time’?
The right person will always be someone you feel absolutely comfortable being with.
The right person is someone that you’ve got the option to be truly authentic with.
There is mutual respect, gentleness, and concern for one another’s overall well-being.
Ruuh provided us with some sample scenarios that might reflect a “right person, wrong time” situation.
Logistical issues can have a big impact on relationships.
The impact of these challenges can be quite negative.
It can affect the amount of time you are able to spend with one another.
Logistical issues can also make it hard to feel like a priority in each other’s life.
Additionally, logistical issues add stress to the relationship because it’s just another hurdle.
Sign #2: They are emotionally unavailable
Relationships are built on a foundation of emotional intimacy.
“Our relationships are mutual spaces to fulfill our needs and desires.
If these needs are not fulfilled you’ll end up feeling dissatisfied,” she told The List.
The constant mixed signals, inconsistency, and non-reciprocation will leave you feeling rejected and unimportant.
Misalignment of long-term goals is one of the many practical reasons a relationship might not work.
By long-term goals, we mean your vision.
Where do you see yourself in the next five years?
What about the next decade?
Sign #4: One of you just got out of an intense relationship
Breakups are hard.
We not only lose a partner but also a part of us, our present and future with them.
When life throws difficult losses at us, it’s always important to allow ourselves to grieve.
Grief can be a great teacher if we allow it to be.
Lots of people attempt to fill this void with casual sex.
“The break we take after a breakup is an act of kindness toward yourself.
“We are not perfect beings who are given a manual for a perfect relationship.
We learn through the modeled behavior of our caregivers, friends, and lovers.
Most adults keep replaying the same scripts that they enacted with their parents as a child.
As we develop a personality and start understanding ourselves better, we can understand our needs and desires.
A self-aware person has higher self-esteem, empathy, confidence, and clarity, for self and others.
Why do you think they are right for you?
Have they expressed their interest in a relationship with you?
Does it align with your values to explore this possibility?
“Having a clear conversation about your feelings might help.
Just verify that they have expressed their interest too and you are not stepping in their boundaries.
True desire can’t be negotiated, so be with someone who chooses you,” she said.
Previous experience leads us to assume a lot of negative things.
Predicting things won’t work out when you have thisanxiety surrounding dating and relationships.
This is also one of the ways soul-searching can help you.
When you have dealt with your unprocessed emotions and carefully compartmentalized them, your gut feeling becomes more accurate.
What not to do?
Don’t have a go at make it work anyway!
In situations like this, Ruuh advises you to stay true to yourself.
