In addition, the way home-care jobs are divvied up canmake or break a marriage.
Then there’s the mental load the job of planning and thinking about these responsibilities.
Comic artistEmmacharacterizes the mental load as “always having to remember.”
However, author and lawyer Eve Rodsky believes there’s a more equitable way.
Rodsky interviewed more than 500 people in the United States to uncover how they divide up household tasks.
“Time is not money,” she explained toScary Mommy.
“Time is time.
My hour is equal to your hour.”
Here’s how her method works.
The others involve thinking about hobbies and interests and cooperatively considering how partners can re-balance their responsibilities.
To start, partners look through the choices and opt for cards that pertain to their life circumstances.
Next, each person selects cards for tasks where they’ll assume responsibility.
It takes time and patience.
“The division of domestic labor is an incredibly emotionally loaded issue,” Caldecott writes inThe Everymom.
When offering commentary, Rodsky recommends keeping the conversation “I” centered.
Get your kids involved with household responsibilities
Running a household is a team effort.
If you have kids, it means more responsibilities, particularly when caring for a baby or young child.
However, as children grow, it also opens up opportunities for further dividing home and care tasks.
Kids can help with packing lunches at night and a quick evening tidying-up session tomake everyone’s morning easier.
One of the keys to getting kids involved is starting early with age-appropriate tasks.
