Tinder is what it is a dating app that specializes in hookups rather than finding a soulmate.
It’s all about being interesting and unique, without giving away too much.
But not every Tinder user acts accordingly.
In fact, many do quite theopposite.
Here are the things you should never,eversay on Tinder.
You’re hot
Do not say this to a manora woman.
It is a colossal waste of time and will elicit a “Really?
That’s all you could come up with?”
Chances of a positive reply or any reply to this advance are quite low."
She continues, “Compliments are good, but dig deeper.
Go with something, like ‘Wow, you’re beautifulandyou’re a politics nerd/quiz champion/marketing guru??’
This takes the compliment from frat-like to adult and also shows you read the profile!”
The bottom line: get creative with your come-on and do your homework.
Do your smarts match your looks?
That’ssucha backhanded compliment that will elicit eye rolling.
In fact, it says you may realize.
What’s up?
Generic greetings or simple salutations are also no bueno.
It makes you look and sound like a total dullard.
You maythinkit’s breaking the ice.
But you’re using a hookup-driven dating app.
Everyone knows why you and all the other users are there.
Opert says, “It reads as lazy and lacking in any personality or effort.
That pop in of comment tells your potential partner more about you and your life.
It also arouses way more interest no pun!
“Never start a conversation with simply ‘Hey.’
It is so boring and unmemorable.
Instead, come up with something witty about the person’s bio or photos,” she tells me.
You free tonight?
She says, “Spontaneity is great, but stay on message.
This puts forth aspecificsituation and scenario, rather than a hint of random sex.
It also leaves a little room for mystery and an “are we, or aren’t we?”
Chances are, the recipient is getting tons of those same messages from other users.
But it’s evenworsewhen you write ‘Your beautiful.'”
(You caught the error,right?)
Reverse psychology is seriously at play here.
Plus, Tinder isn’t the best place to be seeking something more long-lasting.
Opt for ‘non-judgmental’ instead.”
It really is essential to measure and choose your Tinder words carefully.
And yes, there are couples who’ve had meaningful relationships as a result of Tinder meetings.
But the reality is there are creeps out there, and hopefully you won’t meet one."
Masini continues, “Don’t drag your kids into danger zones, unknowingly, by oversharing about them.
Looking for a casual relationship
This is another Tinder no-no, according to Masini.
“Never say you’re looking for a casual relationship if you’re not.
Be honest so you don’t turn into a bitter stalker.”
Plus, a casual relationship isn’t really a “relationship.”
It’s a hookup, which is much more fleeting.
Relationships are meaningful and take work.
Masini continues, “Tinder isn’t Match and it sure isn’t eHarmony.
Know your apps and dating sites before you invest yourself.
‘But he was so polite!’
There are lots of ways to find relationships Tinder is best for quickies.”
They are anything but, since they don’t say anything at all.
These phrases do not offer any further insight into the mind of the person who said them.
She tells me, “Avoid generalized, boring, overused cliches.
Find a more original way to convey these messages.”
Be your most creative and charming self.
You Tinder life depends on it!
Just looking for a friend
Bash also calls this thinly-veiled way to initiate a hookup.
She tells me, “Most people do not go on Tinder hoping to meet their spouse.
Sure, it does happen.
See how certain phrasings may seem simple or innocuous but can convey so much more?
Bash also points out that such a statement can make you seem socially inept.
That achieves the same result without the closed off boundary that will surely push many people away.”
“Obviously that looks desperate and could scare plenty of potential suitors away,” she says.
“Going negative on a dating profile is an inherently bad idea,” he tells me.
He suggests being more specific with something that tells the reader about you!
