We all know how important it is to be on the same page with your partner in a relationship.

You don’t want to scare off your new partnerafter the first few dates.

What does it mean to DTR?

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Defining the relationship or DTR is the point where you and your partner establish what kind relationship you have.

Is your relationship exclusive?

Is it a fun, flirty sexual relationship?

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Are you both looking for long-term partners?

Although these conversations can be uncomfortable, the DTR check-in is vital for having a healthy partnership.

The DTR will help you determine if you have shared expectations.

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Taking the risk and having the DTR conversation can save you from heartbreak and miscommunication.

However, asking someone to DTR right out of the blue can be awkward and uncomfortable.

How should you go about defining the relationship?

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Now, it’s time to hear what your partner has to say.

Sometimes, the DTR may give you insight that you and your partneraren’ton the same page.

“Understand that everyone has the right to move at their own individual pace, including you.”

Value what your partner says, but don’t forget about your wants and needs, too.

The DTR talk isn’t a conversation you should only have once.

Longer relationships will require multiple DTR sessions.

When should you DTR?

With the awkwardness that comes with defining the relationship, some may wonder when they should go about it.

You don’t have to force the DTR talk, though.

Allow for the DTR to come up organically.

“There is no set time to ‘have the talk.’

Once you feel that you’re getting attached to your partner, consider bringing up the topic.

Even though it can be uncomfortable, defining the relationship has clear benefits.