Based on such research, therapists have developed advice onhow to improve your relationship based on your attachment style.
What is disorganized attachment?
An individual with a disorganized attachment style becomes hard to read.
Growing up in an abusive home could be one reason why someone develops a disorganized attachment style.
You could’ve been afraid because you were abused or you were a witness to abusive behavior.
Even if abuse was not part of the equation, your relationship with your primary caregiver was unpredictable.
This might mean you experienced lots of ups and downs in how you connected with your parents.
Even romantic connections in later years can influence insecure attachment styles.
If you’re in a romantic relationship with someone, spend some time sharing your newfound knowledge with them.
It might help them understand you better.
Attachment styles are just a blueprint we can use to get to know ourselves and our relationships better.
As clinical psychologist Ayanna Abrams told Allure, they’re not permanent.
“Your attachment style can change over time depending on your experiences and your desire to change.
This takes time, energy, and effort, and it’s very much worth it.”
