What do you do if a friend tells you some potentially devastating news?

What if it’s something that could end their relationship, such ascheating?

Do you scold them?

Friend consoling her friend with a hug

Or do you console them and give a shot to understand their reasoning?

Conversely, you may not be caught off guard if the couple already has a tumultuous history.

But what is an appropriate response to such a potentially devastating confession?

Friend consoling her upset friend

The answer can be complex, and you could even lose your friend if you are not careful.

According to her, you’re gonna wanna listen intently and hear their point of view.

People cheat for various reasons, including lack of sex, self-esteem issues, and the absence of commitment.

Couple in distress on the couch

Therefore, letting your friend explain their reasoning before passing any judgment is crucial.

After hearing your friend out, you’re free to then voice your views.

Rastogi suggests refraining from sounding too critical.

Remember that you are also human and capable of similar behavior.

Even after you’ve voiced your beliefs, end it by asking them how they are feeling.

This lets them know that you are still concerned about their well-being.

You also want to convey that you are not angry with them for their indiscretions.

Ultimately, you are meant to be a confidante during their vulnerable moment.

Ultimately, it’s up to your friend to confess if they choose.

Telling a secret of this magnitude can be detrimental on several levels.

Staying out of what they decide to do with the news will serve you well.

Instead, listening and holding your friend accountable for cheating is best.