Saying “I love you” can be a big step in any relationship.

And being vulnerable can be frightening.

It’s still true, however, that saying “I love you” can have its consequences.

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Loving somebody enough to tell them you love them is something to be celebrated.

But some relationship coaches warn that saying “I love you” too soon could be a red flag.

“And the problem is we love hearing those three words.

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We want to hear them so badly, and we want to feel them.”

“We have to be very careful.

We have to slow it down.

We have to be thoughtful,” he says.

“Listen to your gut and intuition, and remember you are lovable the way you are right now.