Being picky is often viewed as a personal flaw.
Being too picky can limit your options, and the same might be said about dating.
Here’s why you should never lower your standards when dating.
When you set high standards in dating, you demonstrate to others that you expect to be treated well.
Meanwhile, lowering your standards communicates weak boundaries.
Your core needs won’t change
Standards are a reflection of our needs.
Compatibility can’t be forced
You’ve been dating around for a while but keep striking out.
In response, your friends encourage you to lower your standards to stretch your options.
Compatibility is built into the standards you choose for yourself and your love life.
High standards help you eliminate romantic matches who don’t share your values and goals.
This may seem like the perfect justification for lowering your standards who doesn’t want options?
[Then], we burn lots of time and lots of love-energy on the wrong people."
If that’s what you’re looking for, great!
But if not, see to it to keep your standards high.
Can standards ever be too high?
You may be expecting too much, says relationship counselor Natasha Silverman.
“There’s a difference between having high standards, and having unrealistic expectations,” Silverman shared withMetro.
Similarly, your standards should respect your partner’s individuality.
Finally, don’t mistake standards for a long checklist of must-haves.
Plus, these superficial qualities contribute pretty much nothing to a healthy relationship.
Keep your standards focused on your needs, values, and boundaries and never lower them for anyone.
